Sometimes the hardest truths arrive quietly — disguised as simple sentences we never expected to say. In this deeply personal reflection, Dr Jaspreet Soor explores the surprising moment she realized she might be resisting happiness, and what neuroscience, somatic memory, spirituality, and the soul reveal about why joy can feel unsafe — even when life is going well.

Self-destruction doesn’t always look dramatic. Often, it hides in subtle patterns of self-neglect and inner conflict that begin after trauma or grief. This piece explores how survival adaptations can quietly turn us against ourselves — and why compassion, not force, is the way through.

Anger is often misunderstood as something to suppress or avoid. But when understood and used consciously, anger can become a powerful signal — one that helps us set boundaries, reclaim ourselves, and move forward without turning against our own bodies.

Not all trauma comes with a memory. Some experiences form before language, leaving no story to explain why the body remains on alert. This reflection explores learning safety when trauma cannot be named.

Many of us become “the strong one” out of necessity. Over time, that identity carries a cost—one the nervous system eventually reveals. This essay explores burnout, resilience, and the quiet moment when strength stops working.

Presence is one of the most healing gifts we can offer — not our advice, not our solutions, just our grounded, quiet being. When we learn to sit with our own emotions without running, we become able to sit with others in their moments of fear, grief, or change. Presence is medicine. Presence is love in its purest form.

Her True Self

Sometimes loneliness isn’t about being alone at all. It’s the quiet ache of love with nowhere to go — love that overflows without finding a home. In my own journey through burnout and healing, I discovered that grief can arise not from loss, but from love unexpressed. This reflection explores how learning to hold that love — for ourselves, first — becomes the beginning of peace.

Vulnerability is often mistaken for weakness, yet it may be the strongest doorway into true healing. As a coach, doula, and facilitator, I’ve learned that being whole isn’t about appearing polished or untouchable—it’s about embracing the cracks and mending them with care, like Kintsugi’s gold seams.

When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, authenticity emerges. And from authenticity flows a deeper, lasting kind of healing—one that shifts judgment into compassion and opens space for love.

If you’re ready to explore what vulnerability could mean in your own life, I invite you to step into this conversation with me.

We all go through endings and beginnings, though we rarely name them as such. Earlier this year, I experienced what I can only describe as a chrysalis moment—a death and a rebirth. It reminded me that transformation isn’t always about becoming “better”; sometimes it’s about letting go of what no longer fits so we can step into who we truly are.

This is the heart of my work as a Life & Legacy Transitions Consultant: guiding people through cycles of change—whether facing burnout, navigating grief, or preparing for end of life—so they can reconnect with authenticity, peace, and joy.

If you’re standing at a threshold in your own life, this reflection may speak to you.

Reflections on cycles and chages